A Dollar Purchase That Will Change Your Social Life
You know those people who consistently have good ideas? That describes my best friend Kelly. She has this amazing ability to put forethought into everything she does. Back when I met her the first weekend of our freshman year, it was no different.
You see, she had thought about the fact that dorm room doors automatically close behind you. I’m sure it’s a safety precaution, and a good one at that, but it’s not so good for mingling. So Kelly spent a dollar on a little doorstop.
An open door encourages people to poke their head in, introduce themselves and talk for a few minutes.Kelly lived across the hall from me, so I met her right away. And I quickly caught on to the huge number of people who flocked to her room with the open door. Within the first two weeks of the semester, we’d pretty much met all of the 200 residents in our dorm. My roommate and I also quickly got ourselves a doorstop.
Generally, when you start college, everyone has a common desire for a new beginning. A big component of that is meeting new people. An open door encourages people to poke their head in, introduce themselves and talk for a few minutes.
Here’s a few tips to think about when you use your own doorstop:
- Talk to your roommate about it and establish good times to keep the door open. If your roommate doesn’t like the idea, maybe you only use your doorstop when he or she is in class or otherwise away from the room.
- Make a room rule that the door remains open anytime you have new people visiting with you. This will help you avoid any situations where you might feel uncomfortable by someone you don’t really know.
- Keep in mind that with all the cool new friends you meet, you’re also likely to attract some weirdos. I don’t necessarily think this is a bad thing—everyone needs to work on their Weirdo Radar. It’s also good for your social skills to learn how to handle and interact with all kinds of people. Besides, you can have some really interesting conversations with weirdos.
- Remember that you don’t have to have your door open every time you’re in your room. Everyone needs downtime. You also might find after the first few weeks that you don’t need to use your doorstop anymore because you have an established circle of friends who now feel comfortable knocking on your door.
Happy mingling! Here’s hoping you find some awesome new friends.