When Will I Be Part of the Real World?
It seems as though I have been waiting my whole life for the day I’ll be in “the real world.”
My closest friends and I talk about it often. Will it be when I decide on a career? But what if I don’t want a “career” necessarily? Will it be when I get married? But what if I never get married?
Our high school teachers would constantly spout statements like, “(That) won’t suffice when you’re in the real world.” And the pronouncements came more often as we neared high school graduation day. Now I’m in college and I hear the exact same thing!
This confused me tremendously and almost made me feel as though what I was doing as a young woman never truly mattered because I was too young to live within the realms of the real world.
So, how about I debunk everything most people think about this so-called real world?
You’ve always been in the real world.
Yes, that’s right. You’ve always been here.
We aren’t humans walking around with blinders on and we aren’t extraterrestrial life forms who appear when you reach a certain age or accomplish something society deems significant enough. I know those examples seem pretty extreme, but does it not feel that way sometimes?
Of course, our parental guardians try to protect us from the hurt and violence in the world we live on, but there’s a massive difference between growing through the experience of learning more about the world and declaring that you aren’t a part of it until you reach a specific milestone of your life.
Remember what success means to you.
Let me tell you guys about a friend of mine named Paige. Paige is about 20 years old and is from California and as soon as she graduated from high school she decided to be a nanny in Russia for a year. When I met her, she was doing an internship at an orphan prevention center in Uganda. Paige has never been to college and isn’t planning on it anytime soon.
For me, as a college student, my age and my status prevents me from being considered a part of the real world. Paige, who has less education than me and most of my friends, has seen more of the world than over half of the adults in my life have. She’ll probably never be a millionaire; I highly doubt she’ll ever “settle down”; and who knows if she’ll ever even work a 9 to 5? Although she might not be the definition of success, according to most, I know she wouldn’t choose her life to be anything other than what it is.
Here’s how you become a part of the real world: You choose to be a part of it. Study what you want to. Be who you want. Know where you are and remember how many opportunities you have! Show the world what success is and that you’re a part of it.
What do you think makes you a part of the real world?