Dating in College
My pastor always told me that in college you don’t date for fun anymore, you date for a future with that person.
College relationships are nothing like high school relationships. You are in a new environment and you have to grow as your own person. That is why you frequently hear people say it’s not always best to take your high school love with you to college.
In college, you will find out more about yourself and see a whole new world out there. You will meet new people and have experiences you never thought you would have. You will change. Sometimes, it’s best to find yourself first and decide who you really are before you get into a long-term relationship.
In college, you will meet tons of people and you need to be careful about who you decide to date. We’ve all heard the national media stories of students being raped or abused because they were just in the wrong place at the wrong time with the wrong person.
Consider a Dating App
Technology has overrun college campuses and now everybody is into the dating scene. Students can use every type of app from sites such as Tinder, Christian Mingle and Farmers Only.
Whatever race, ethnicity, color, shape or size you are, there is an app out there for you. A lot of college students use apps to meet other students or even someone just in the general area because many of us are ultimately interested in a serious relationship, and these apps can help with that.
Join an Organization
Getting involved in clubs on campus and off campus helps a lot with meeting new people. I was in an organization called Chi Alpha and that is how I met my girlfriend of a year.
There are many organizations on campus with students of similar interests as you, but you need to go out there and find them. Your future partner could be found living across the hall from you in your dorm or even in one of your classes. You just have to talk to and get to know people to find out.
Once at college, you will soon realize that most people don’t care who you decide to date. Whether you date black, white, able, disabled, girls, guys or both, people around you won’t care. College is one place where you are free to express who you are and feel comfortable, so do that and you should be fine.
Make Time for School
Just because you are dating someone in college doesn’t mean that should be your top priority. You need to make time made for your academics and whatever else it is that you do for school. You need to find someone who will support what you want to do in the future with your life. If that person doesn’t, then maybe he or she is not the right person for you. Your partner should support your dreams and in everything you decide to do in school and in the future.
Not everyone is going to find someone in college. Many people don’t even end up having a relationship after college because they have a new life to start.
There is no need to rush into anything with anyone and no reason you should spend too much of your time looking for someone. Just let it happen and make sure you are happy in the end.